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Is your marriage based on love or convenience?

Cole Porter had one. Auden, too, though not for the same reason.

Nancy Mitford desperately wanted one. Dorothy Parker wanted out, and in again.

How do you know if someone is married to you for convenience?

For as long as it was considered wrong to be gay, there were those who chose—or were forced—to hide their proclivities by getting married to someone they did not love in that way. When I began writing Free chat with astrologer Italian Partywhich is set inI wanted to explore a marriage of convenience, with the twist being that neither husband nor wife knows the secret the other is keeping, at first.

It felt who wants to chat women only a fresh take on those goofy romantic comedies with Rock Hudson and Doris Day that now have a whole new uncomfortable layer of meaning. I was interested in examining a marriage with secrets for several reasons. Real life marriages of convenience were undoubtedly more common than we know.

What's wrong with a "marriage of convenience?"

I would bet every one of us has a few in our family tree. I imagine each pairing had its own complicated mix of emotions surrounding secrecy, attraction, and fidelity.

Gay actors, writers, and musicians throughout history often had to marry or risk losing their audiences. I am illuminating a few here not out of prurience, but to ask us to imagine what the emotional cost was for those who had to keep their true selves secret from the world, and what we lost or gained as a result of the pain they farina illinois sex chat doubt endured.

To single out a notable example of an unhappy union, Oscar Wilde married heiress Constance Lloyd in Apparently, their sex life waned after she had their second child, but one can imagine it being confused even before then. Their marriage was, however, a time of exceptional creative fertility for him, when he produced his most famous works, including The Picture of Dorian Gray.

But the heart wants what the heart wants, and Lord Alfred Douglas swanned into the picture, love bloomed, and then things got grim. Things were much happier, matrimonially speaking, for brilliant composer and songwriter Cole Porter, who married socialite Linda Lee Thomas in Unlike the Wilde marriage, it seems that Cole dj chat Linda both knew exactly what they were ing up for and genuinely loved each other.

She was coming out of an abusive first marriage, and he needed a wife to provide cover for a flamboyant lifestyle.

They lived lavishly in Paris, Venice, and New York, and stayed loyal to each other through dark times after a horseback riding accident in that left wapchat mobile chat disabled and in great pain.

Some marriages of convenience have a heroic cast to them.

Marriage of convenience

Although they were both in gay relationships, British poet W. Auden married Erika Mann, daughter of Thomas Mann, in when the Nazis threatened to strip her of her citizenship for her anti-Fascist theater work. Auden and Mann apparently never consummated the marriage but stayed married and friends until cyber chats in charleston west virginia death in The marriage enabled her to have British citizenship, and she became active in the British war effort as a BBC correspondent.

They both lived separately in the U. Some women fall for gay men and never quite get over them. Novelist Nancy Mitford, oldest of the glamorous and sometimes notorious Mitford sisters, waited years for a marriage proposal from her gay beau, Hamish St. Hamish seemed clearer than Nancy about the fact that they were not meant hey bored want to chat be, but had to invent an engagement to another woman to convince brokenhearted Nancy to move on.

Hamish and Nancy died only a few months apart in It matters, I think, because obstacles to romance may be the stuff of great stories, but in real life are the stuff of great pain.

Some of the best love stories, poems, and songs were written by those who could not love openly. We can count ourselves roxyrolla chat lucky to live in a time when being gay does not carry with it the stigma it once did, and when people in some countries can marry those they love of any gender.

That said, our world still contains many reasons to hide in a marriage that is convenient but unhappy. Poverty, abuse, or fear of social stigmas keep people entwined who should not be.

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No doubt some of the trapped are writing different paris chat for themselves, spinning their agony into beautiful art we will read, listen to, wear, admire. Throughout history and to this day, great pain and great creativity are themselves a sort of marriage. She now lives in the foothills of the Sierra Nevada.

She is the co-author of two novels under the pen name Magnus Flyte. She teaches at College of the Sequoias. The Italian Party chat roulette men her debut novel under her own name.

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